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Gaurav & Sneha


The final bastion of bachelor hood and spinster days are over for the couple Gaurav and Sneha.  ON behalf of the derebail clan we welcome Sneha into the family tree.  May almighty give the couple best of maritial bliss and happiness for the next 25 years.  I am sure you all will exhibit the same warmth, hospitality and keep forging ahead into the next generation of family unity with max transperancy.( privacy concerns are welcome)

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The final bastion of bachelor hood and spinster days are over for the couple Gaurav and Sneha.  ON behalf of the derebail clan we welcome Sneha into the family tree.  May almighty give the couple best of maritial bliss and happiness for the next 25 years.  I am sure you all will exhibit the same warmth, hospitality and keep forging ahead into the next generation of family unity with max transperancy.( privacy concerns are welcome)

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I am adopting a collage method to unfold the marriage event which has taken place live at Nataraj lawns Chembur on 28/11/2014, where the wedding was solmenised in Kerala style first, which went about in a jiffy and detailed ceremony of the Padmashalis custom.  The wedding ceremonies went till about 1.15 and later photo sessions.

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Guys the feel good factor in any wedding is that we get to meet good association of each members of the family and friends circle.  We may not be aware of Gaurav’s close friends and their names but the smile on their face exhibits the warmth and closeness on a happy occasion.  Probably Gaurav must be first off the block into the marriage arena like his dad among his friends circle…..Gaurav please fill in the names …


During my marriage time I was tense somehow, but when I saw Gaurav cool as a cucumber, I was amazed at his tenacity, particularly with dad’s hyper tense voice.  Nothing to demean but to put a point across in a scuttle manner, guys we need to act the age and mentor the next generation.  Hope I am right Gaurav ?  If I am wrong can t help it.  Just Joking !

Gaurav remember the golden advice if you wanna marriage to be successful you got to fall in love again and again, not with a different person but the one whom you married…..Sneha is her name, and now she is a member of Derebails.


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Shaila in the absence of Naresh has shouldered lot of responsibility in arrangements, probably we might miss him physically but the fact remains that we could feel his presence in spirit throughout the function.  Brother we dearly miss you physically.  Even today my eyes get filled to think of you as a godfather to younger generation particularly Gaurav. Give a helping hand to your brother Gaurav for he too needs a little push in the right direction.


Hai Hello Neeta we envy your Green Cellphone and appreciate you tenacity and drive to make Gaurav’s wedding a happy and eventful occasion.  By inviting bus loads of neighbor’s to the wedding reception you have contributed to the happy occasion.  Amazing to see such a huge gathering that too on Friday literally a week end.  I guess around 1100 people must have gathered for the happy occasion.  I believe Dinesh has set such a high standard for a gathering probably it will be hard to replicate such crowd assembly in future.   I am sure those who have assembled would have witnessed the magnetic charm of late Shri Rajeev derebail’s connectivity among the Padmashali community members.

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Great Clan is unity in diversity.  Sanika is basking in glory with almost a bridal type of attire, a dress rehearsal of sorts for her date with destiny.  Naresh I am sure you are watching from heaven above.

I suggested to Sharang to take forward a leap into the blogsphere and utilize his talent for creative expression and become a uniting factor for other members of our clan.  His musings of the Facebook has amazing depth of his mindset and idealism.  The emotion connect that he displayed with Vasanthi was so refreshing that we do not miss a progeny in our family.  This is what is called filling gaps in our lives by reaching out with words and affection.  Truly Sharang I want you to be in blogsphere and hopefully it would be widely read across the globe.


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Sneha sorry that I barged into your privacy and introduced myself as Gaurav’s Kaka, because I had told Gaurav I need to get introduced prior to marriage, and I am committed to my statement.  Probably Gaurav because of Dengue attack missed the appointment.  Never mind if our intentions are noble things definitely fall in place.  And see the lord has ensured it

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The secret for a successful married life take it from me is to listen when other person is angry, respond with a smile, sorry my dear or thank her for small errands.  The faster you learn to use these little phrases and frequently you will enjoy your married life.  I am sure you will find a way out when there is major difference in approach, chill out in the house not outside.  Whatever you wanna do it, do it at home in front of better half…..hey I don t want to sermonize !

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Dinesh remember we took time to reach Nataraj Lawns, but the hurry bury was all just an anxiety.  Kye Sera Sera whatever has to happen will happen.  I hope you got the message.  Chill brother……I don t violate rules.

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Big brother Kishore was suffering from sore legs but still he kept a smiling face and kept nodding his head in acknowledgement.  The desire to be present at an happy occasion and be connected with the Clan is strong in his dictionary, a typical Karunakaran derebail trait.  I hope his children emulate his simplicity and connectivity ( Shuba & Avinash )

Kishore & Shuba seated
Kishore & Shuba seated 2 row

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I love Kerala food preparation and after a long long time I really enjoyed a sumptuous vegetarian affair.  And the waiters were literally bouncing on each other because I was conversing with their lingo franca.  Thanks to Nair family for arranging such an excellent affair with a cuisine, and with a lovely company to abet the flavor of the food multiplied manifold.


He is smiling and thinking of blue……….lesser said the better.


Dinner was double fun catching up with the community members, photographic bouts, with Vasanthi around catching up everyone with everybody was really hectic.  But Sneha expressed it beautifully I want to stay put for some more time.  I want stay connected with the family. To make every member feel wanted is a difficult  task to achieve and I am sure we all added our bits and pieces to it. Thanks to Neeta and Dinesh for organizing such a lavish dinner.   I missed out on many items for the fear of choking because of bad throat condition.  Sorry Dee you had to face such a trouble reaching the marriage hall, but I hope you made it up with Chetan around in the evening for the reception.

SORRY Vicky for  calling you Vicky the donor after the hit Bollywood movie.  It came out spontaneously.  Thanks for your appreciation buddy.

Meeting with Jeevan  & Praveen Shetty family, their magnetic short presence was felt. For a few seconds I uttered  to Jeevan what is doing in Catering  business his personality suits cineworld.  Probably in the mould of Gabbar Singh.  I was seriously suggesting to take an audition.  WHO knows s he  will mint money over there too.  Just joking Jevaan.

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GAURAV which of these two pics you liked as a fab one ?  Tell me which you liked ?


Sharang I have adopted an unusual route shunning the frills of timing and breaking the barriers of tradition by penning a blog in thanksgiving fashion, probably you could add some more zing to Gaurav’s marriage blog.  Till further updates thanks for all Padmashali community members on being present on the happy occasion, friends & colleagues of Gaurav for blessing with your presence and not presents. Amita was singing praises to Akila as a beauty queen literally in Ash mould.  She is amazed at her personality to the core.  To end it with a bang, Amita summed it up appropriately Rajeev was a Gem with whom we connected in our childhood and shall remain committed till the end.

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Sanika is ready for the occasion with her tambula.  She was active participant in the happy occasion despite her upcoming exams and preparations.  I hope she recalls her dad’s advice on studies.


Jeevan Shetty is closed to Rajeev Derebail family since they were staying in Chembur, Mahesh and Jeevan happen to be childhood friends.  He is running a successful chain of Malvani food restaurant branded as Ratnagiri.  Amita was a neighbor of the family, just next door staying at Shell Colony.  The Kanchan family looked up the Derebails as an extended family with all their Children being in touch even today.  Amita is current with IT as an officer.  Arun is with ICICI and Vinod abroad working as incharge of a Pet Unit, when I heard last.  Amita was singing glory about Rajeev Derebail.  Her lavish praise for the family was soothing for the ears and literally woke up to the reality, that we should stay connected at all times so that we can tide the moments of crisis and celebrate with joy happy occasions like birthdays and weddings.


Some are afraid of getting themselves photographed for the fear of looking haggard and ugly, Uma is hiding her face but I ensured that Roshan come out in all hues of rainbow colours.  The smile express thousands of words.  In fact everybody tells me that I am a non-stop talker, but it is other way round I bring out the best in people.  I don t know whether it is a god gift of the gab or other person’s need to express.  Guys I was down and out and under medication for hypertension which was taking a heavy toll on my health but I never knew how I spent almost 14 hours continuously being alert and active.  I refused to take a nap guys.  I cannot afford to miss allround hub of activity.


Mahesh don t go missing once again……I shall incorporate your presence a little later with pics and words….Even my photos are missing ?  please guys provide us the missing link….One or two I managed to salvage.  Don t be peeping toms from Flarepath.  Vasanthi discussing with Rishab and Chetan Padmashali in a humouros manner.


On this solemn occasion it is appropriate to remember the grandfather in Rajeev N Derebail & Naresh Derebail, please do bless the couple with maritial bliss and prosperity.  Guide them in the right path.


Now it is time to say good bye to the couple for their honeymoon trip to Udupi, Kerala and Sri Lanka, Bon Voyage Gaurav and Sneha.  Have a rocking time.

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Gaurav take care of Sneha forever….with best wishes from De Clan.


Umesh & Vasanthi’s


Prologue : It is a general saying that marriages are finalised in heaven but they have to solemnised and consumated on planet earth. My mom was hunting for a bride for a long time. She had my horoscope in her mind and looking for a Kuja Dosa compatible bride. I must have been taken like a lamb for slaughter to atleast 10 different families some related and some unrelated. You all might be wondering why i did not fall in love or date a girl and get married. I had a few gals in my radar among the relatives and was proceeding cautiously because of mom. She needs a bride of her choice rather than my compatibility. So i let her look around the entire country. I remember i even went Kolkatta and saw a Padmshali girl and partly liked her and later realised she had adorned lot of make up which was downer. Later negotiation broke down and we had to drop her. My uncles daughter got married one by one and therefore the comfort zone of marrying a known girl vanished. My dad was getting frustrated when he used to hear Kuja, he uttered in kannada kuja is nothing but koodioudu mathe jadiyudu. For those who followed it in Kannada i am sure would have had hearty laughter by now.

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Ultimately she spotted through Sanjeev Shettigar Vasanthi. She was working at that time in stationery division of Corporation Bank. She approved of the match based on horoscope. My dad said come on son let us go and finalise the girl. We called her up and fixed an appointment to meet her in the office at Balmatta. We took a bus and landed in Vasanth Mahal hotel, it happened to be filled with prostitutes which i noticed and ignored. We quickly freshned up and rushed to the bank at 10 am. Vasanthi probably would have expected us in the noon but she managed to hold herself and dad approved of the match instanteously. But i said i want to talk to the alone. She proposed that we visit her place at Karnad for meeting up with the family. We went had a nice Kane lunch with their family but still i was not convinced that she will be able to withstand the tornado type of atmosphere in our family with each one having an independent outlook

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I requested her family to let me meet and dicuss for a day or two with Vasanthi in privacy. They luckily accepted despite traditinal barriers. Next day we caught up at Punja arcade, her colleague Sudha accompanied her. She saw me and said i dont want to spoil the mood with my presence she vanished. We went to woodside hotel at KSR road and had a nice lunch i had a bottle of beer and dicussed very all facets of my career and family background. I thought i should reveal all essential facts so that she makes an informed decision. After lunch i pushed off to my grandfathers place in Udupi. I had quit Nutrine and had an offer from Kurl-on. It was joining time gap which i was utilising to finalise my alliance. Dad had to rush back to Blore early because mom was pestering him to return. Next day again i suggested we shall go for a movie. We went to watch a movie in Ramakanth theatre near central market. Again day after i suggested we meet to go and watch a movie, oh my goodness i don t know what was happening in her mind. Two movies, one lunch and two visits to her place i was convinced that she would be able to reasonably handle whatever situation.

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In the meanwhile i reported for duty at Kurl-on. It was a cosy job based in HQ on Dickenson road. We were working 9 to 5 in an AC office on the 5th floor. I used to travel by our old ambassador car. I started feeling restless considering that we were supposed to get engaged and than married on 23rd August 1991. Vasanthi’s dad, mom and brother came and finalised the formalities of marriage. I knew for sure that it wont be prudent to get married and stay in two bedroom house, wherein we were 5 members already. I decided to request my boss to post me outside Bangalore. Initially i was offered Ahmedabad, but later he changed my posting to Nagpur, because the DM over there was married and he wanted to get back to his home town in Calicut. I grabbed the opportunity with both the hands and rushed to Nagpur. What i faced was a total change in set up and operational style in durable industry. It was admistrative accounts and sales, a massive responsibility along with getting used to hindi culture. I hardly had any savings in my account so i took up a cheap accomodation which was occupied by previous incumbent.

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We were on letter writing spree because those days she did not have telephone at home and i was contactable only over common phone in the business centre. It was troublesome for her to talk in her office. Vasanthi was updating regarding the development and moms absurd demands and behavior. There was a massive misunderstanding developing between the families on some pretext. As the deadline was nearing i was keeping my fingers crossed. But finally the D day was arriving and i applied 15 days leave and proceeded to Blore via Chennai. There was no direct train to Blore from Nagpur. I had simple card printed for the marriage around 200 in nos, i distributed some in Nagpur among dealers colleagues and customer and than proceeded to Blore to distribute among friends and Nutrine circle. Kaladharan accompanied me to few places but he skipped attending the marriage probably for want of leave. In the meanwhile Vasanthi had applied for transfer before fixing the date to Nagpur.

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She was issued immediate transfer order and her union colleague went and spoke to management how can a girl go and live in Nagpur without getting married. It would be scandulous. So there accomodated to relieve her after marriage.


We hired a tempo and arrived at Udupi previous evening from Bangalore. Jackie a friend of Akila accompanied with Bhaskar and Bharti and Bhavya. I got down and withdrew around 5 K from Vijaya Bank, to pay for the van expenses and other miscellaneous expenses to be incurred for marriage. I was a little tense whether everything will end up smoothly. Early morning after bath we moved from Kalyani Nilaya to marriage hall at Bappanadu. We had a good lot of attendance from our side despite the fact mom never made conscious effort to invite every relative of the family personally. Most of the relatives came because they loved daddy, in fact around 200 people from the clan attended. Vasanthi had a huge crowd from her side.


It was pouring cats and dog and in the noon the weather cleared up a little bit. Many of the corporatin bank staff came to wish us. Somebody published our marriage news in Udayvani, the local newspaper too. I believe goddess durgaparameshwari blessed us with all her might. After an elaborate ceremony the marriage concluded with a lunch at 3 PM. We proceeded to Karnad for a tea session and than pushed off for a night halt at Udupi.

Next day morning again we came back to Karnad to complete the formality and we had a nice non veg lunch and boarded the matador back to Blore in the noon. By 11 pm we reached R T Nagar without much event enroute. Vasanthi had an emotional farewell from her parents. For the first time i really felt sad for her since she was parting association with her family due to marriage.


Bharati and Uma along with Udaya Kumar in the background.  Uday helped me to tie the panche which was tricky issue for me, because it was slipping away from my hips.  He was at the background always during the marriage along with his children Bhavana and Avinash Kallianpur.


Just before leaving Vasanthi’s place at Karnad a group snap.  Jackie special guest appearance.  One final snap so it see



Final countdown and our journey towards Bangalore by matador.

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Thank you guys for being patient and browsing through our marriage.  Till we meet again.  Goodbye.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.